Friday, November 16

A Life Ended.

This is one of Mrs Nice Neighbour's new gardens. I think it is lovely. She said the little church is pottery. I don't know where she finds her little figures, but I know she shops around, & keeps her eyes open for any little treasures, to use in her gardens.



I had another post planned for today. It has been very oppressive & so humid & hot. I even had a doze this afternoon.

We had to have the carpet adjusted in some places, so the carpet man arrived, & dealt with the problems.

Our Daughter J had some problems from work, so she called in to tell us the state of play there, & spent quite some time just talking. It is always nice to see her.

I later had a phone call from her, to say SG wanted to talk to me. His news was that he had got a bee sting on his thumb. He said he had cried, & it hurt. He told me they put Honey on the sting! Some Mother had said that would be the thing to do. That was a new one for me, I have never heard that.

Thankfully he doesn't seem to be allergic. His mother is very allergic, & so am I.



All day, I kept expecting the Groom to call in. Every time the dogs barked, I waited for a call. He had told us on Thursday, that the Bride was in a very poor state, & was not expected to improve much. She had such a determined spirit, & he had been told she might recover from this bout, but of course the end was inevitable.

He called in around 4pm, to let us know she peacefully passed away this afternoon around 1.30pm. He said it was sooner than the Dr had thought, but it was peaceful & really a blessing.

As I looked at his sad face, I felt so sorry for him. He has been a faithful & wonderful husband to his Bride. He was so proud & happy at their 50th Wedding Anniversary party. She was so excited, & happy & proud.

I have blogged about them previously. I am too tired to find the posts tonight. I wonder how he will manage now. He has spent so much time with her these past months, bringing her home daily, when he could. Sitting with her when she was too ill to bring home.

Mozart, "Elvira Madigan"

29 comments:

joyce said...

My SIL's mother is dying of cancer and she said that going peacefully in your sleep as my dad did is a gift for an old person. I have to agree but I think it's a gift for those left behind too. Sorry to hear of the death of your friend but happy to hear it was peaceful.

Mike said...

Sorry to hear of the passing of your friend. Sorry for the ones she left behind. How sad to spend your whole life with someone and then have to continue on alone. It must be scary.

Lone Grey Squirrel said...

I am sorry for your loss. I have no other words but I will rejoice at their long love affair and mourn at her passing and hope for a future reunion.

Thimbleanna said...

Oh Meggie, so sorry to hear this. The Groom is very fortunate to have caring friends like you to help him as he adjusts to his new life.

Molly said...

So sorry you lost your friend...The groom is lucky to have a friend like you. It must be so hard to adjust to life without someone you've lived with for so long.....

Joni said...

The little creation is so darn cute. What an imagination. I am sorry to hear about your friend too. The last post about SG was so sweet. Makes me smile!

Ian Lidster said...

The passages of life are always painful no matter how philosophical we think we are.

Elaine Adair said...

Oh my .. a sad story, but gently told. Thank you.

tracey petersen said...

My sympathies to all. I hope that the groom has plenty of love and support around him.

Sheila said...

Poor chap, it will take him along time to adjust. My FIL cared for MIL at home for 2 years, and when she went, his days were so empty, he felt lost. Not only had he lost her, but he had nothing to do.
Sorry to hear the little one had a bee sting, good job he's not allergic. Watch him though, as sometimes they don't react the first time.

velcro said...

I'm so sorry to hear about your friend Meggie.

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riseoutofme said...

My sympathies Meggie. Its always hard when loved ones pass on ...

A very gentle post.

sueeeus said...

My sympathies to all as well, Meggie. Wishing you all comfort and strength.

ancient one said...

Sorry to hear of your friend's passing.. I don't remember reading the preceeding blogs about them, I might go look it up.. They had over 50 years together.. Groom will be lonely, I'm sure.

I read your previous blog about SG. It brought back memories of my grandchildren when they were young. I know the feelings you had with him on the balcony.. I dislike heights too!! And when mine left after a day with me, I stood in the door blowing them kisses and they were blowing them back to me..

Tanya Brown said...

Oh dear, oh dear. This sounds like the man whose wife who'd been in the nursing facility and who would spring her free each day?

I'm so sorry. Fifty years together - imagine it. And it sounds as though he went to every effort to seize each day and cherish it.

I will be hoping for the best for him, that after a time the memories of his wife will bring warmth and not feelings of loss and sorrow.

Stomper Girl said...

That is sad to hear Meggie.

Tanya said...

I'm sorry for your friend. Somehow it seems harder when the wife passes first. I don't know why. The menfolk left behind look so lost and like they don't know themselves. Women tend to jump back into things a bit faster. I hope you can be a comfort to the gentleman.

paula said...

Meggie, I'm sorry to hear your news. I'm sending warm thoughts to you today.

Bren said...

So sorry about the Bride ((((hugs))))

Wizened Wizard said...

You covered a lot of ground in this post - ages, generations, people you love, joy and sadness. I am touched by your caring and sensitive heart and moved by the gentle, tender way you shared these loved ones with us. I'm sorry for the Groom's loss and for yours.

sheoflittlebrain said...

This is both a sad and uplifting post. How wonderful to have a lifelong love, even if one has to go first.
Your post about your Grandson brought a smile to my face:)
Thanks for answering the agapanthus question. Sounds like they might make it in Arizona!

teodo said...

I'm sorry to read about your friend ..........you have done a good memory.
ciao ciao

Alice said...

Meggie, I'm sure your infinite compassion will be a great source of strength to your friend in the coming months.

I have heard of the bee sting/honey treatment although I don't think I've ever had to use it. Glad it worked for him.

jellyhead said...

Meggie, I'm really sorry to hear such sad news. I know you are worried for your friend now that he has lost his beloved, and you will be dealing with your own personal sadness too.

I hope something lovely happens today to lift your spirits.

Hugs to you,
XO Jelly

Ali Honey said...

Thinking of you Meggie and sending a hug.

We have also had an old relation die this morning...not someone we were very close to but part of our greater family all the same.

bluemountainsmary said...

there is just something so appropriate about that little church garden being in the same post as the sad passing of your friend the bride.

Thinking of you Meggie.

smilnsigh said...

I'm sorry but... if it was peaceful and a blessing, I hope this can be the overriding thought...

Mari-Nanci

Lee said...

It is never easy. Thoughts from afar.